Abuse can take different forms—it can be mental, emotional, or physical. The heartbreaking part is, most of the time, it comes from the people we love and who are very close to us. Many women are going through or have survived traumas like domestic violence, emotional manipulation, betrayal, and divorce. These traumas take a significant toll on a person’s self-esteem and cause a lasting feeling of loneliness and unworthiness.
This week, we’re joined by Miki Sturges. Miki is a life coach and an expert in the field of resilience and survival from domestic abuse. She established a company called the Rise Up, Women Movement, where she aims to empower, encourage, and inspire women in conquering challenges from abuse. Today, she shares her story and more with us.
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Here are the discussion points of this episode:
- (02:11) Miki talks about her journey and how she became a life coach.
- (08:16) Leaning into your fear.
- (09:13) Miki shares about her healing from an abusive marriage. “I put up the facade, I was very confident at my job, but when I went home, I was this little person, worth nothing.”
- (14:06) The cycle of abuse.
- (20:02) How the fear of leaving effects women in an abusive marriage and why it’s not easy to leave.
- (21:41) Transforming beliefs.
- (25:50) Emotional and verbal abuse cuts through your core.
- (26:55) The cycle of shame.
- (29:36) Learning to get through your subconscious.
- (34:10) Miki shares how the need to protect her son was the biggest jump in finding the courage to leave her abusive husband.
- (36:55) We live in a patriarchal society, and that plays a significant role in perpetuating abuse.
- (40:17) The importance of having support in escaping and recovering from abuse.
- (47:55) You are not responsible for anyone else’s feelings.
- (49:00) What is angel syndrome?
- (52:15) Approaching a relationship in a healthy marriage.
- (56:47) Freeing and forgiving yourself from thoughts of the past.
- (1:03:48) The Rise Up, Women Movement.
One out of every four women in the United States experiences domestic violence in their lifetime. The most crucial step in getting away from this trauma is contacting a domestic abuse hotline.
If you need immediate assistance for domestic abuse, call 911, or you may call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). They will provide help by assisting with crisis intervention and initial safety planning. There is also a hotline for teen victims of domestic violence, called Love Is Respect, which you can call at 1-866-331-9474
We talked about a lot today, and there’s a lot to unpack. Feel free to share your thoughts and questions with me at firstname.lastname@example.org. You may also join our discussion and share your experiences in our Facebook community, Menopause Movement with Dr. Michelle Gordon. Lastly, don’t forget to follow me on Facebook at Dr. Michelle Gordon.
That’s it for today’s podcast. I hope you learned a lot and can find the courage to reach for help and break the cycle. Thanks a lot for tuning in!
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